Leslie Knope got her dream job, had kids, and is basically running the world on JJ’s waffles and friendship. What more do you want, Academy? I suppose if Pawnee had an emotionally unavailable nerd in a Flash t-shirt, it could finally get the respect it deserves.
With all this talk of the Fifty Shades of Grey trailer dropping, I’m just reminding myself why I love Secretary so much. So many reasons. But this scene knocked me out.
I have not read the E.L. James books, and I’m not knowledgeable enough about BDSM to enter any discussion critiquing them. I know when to say that I don’t know. I defer to others who understand the arguments more clearly.
But I still just have to say. Secretary.
I’ve noticed that ableism tends to be one of the lesser discussed isms on Tumblr, particularly in regard to physical/visible disabilities. While we usually associate the isms with hate and discrimination, ableism can be much harder to pinpoint because a lot of it is seen as attempts to help or empathize with disabled people.
A few tips:
- Noticing that someone is disabled or thinking that they might have a disability is not an open invitation to interrogate them.
- Similarly, it’s not okay to allow your children to endlessly ask us questions. We are not a convenient way to “teach them diversity” on the fly. We are not obligated to educate anyone. I don’t care if you think it’s cute or precocious, it’s rude and very awkward.
- Please avoid making any connection between disability and religion. It’s almost always offensive, no matter what your faith. Telling me that I can be healed through prayer also automatically assumes that I want or need my life to be changed.
- Do not appropriate someone else’s experiences as a way of showing solidarity with their community. Being injured for a few weeks is not the same as being disabled. If you really wanted to be my ally, you wouldn’t need to find a way to shoehorn yourself into my perspective to get yourself to care.
- I don’t really want to be your inspiration if your definition of inspiration is “thanks for making me feel better about my life because I think your life looks incredibly shitty by comparison.”
- On that note, don’t make presumptions about our quality of life. When people say things like “I couldn’t live like that,” you’re basically implying that you would rather be dead than disabled. That doesn’t feel very good.
- Physical disability does not always indicate cognitive delays. Even if the individual in question does happen to have cognitive disabilities, what gives you the authority to determine how much they’re able to process and understand? Talk to a disabled person the same way you would talk to any other person.
- If you’re that fascinated with how and whether or not we can have sex, why don’t you find out for yourself? (With consent, of course) ;)
On this week’s episode, Wait Wait… Don’t Tell Me! host Peter Sagal sings, comedian paulftompkins reads one-star Amazon reviews (and also sings), and art-rapper mikeeaglestinks offers chilling insight on the Happy Birthday song. He sings as well. Plus, a peek at what probably happened in movies like Christine and Steel Magnolias, cocktail recipes from Don Draper, and a Wits game show.
of course, not everyone can do all these things! but if you are concerned, here is a list of information and resources.
KNOW THE FACTS ABOUT BEE DECLINE:
The global and European situation with bees and other pollinators
Watch Marla Spivak’s TED talk: Why bees are disappearing
PLANT BEE-FRIENDLY PLANTS:
List of bee plants by category
Know your garden store: Don’t poison bees by accident
MAKE A WILD BEE HOUSE:
About wild/solitary bees & how to build a bee house
more on bee houses
ENCOURAGE YOUR LOCAL GOVERNMENT TO DO MORE TO HELP:
Bee Health: Background and Issues for Congress
(unfortunately, I cannot provide a comprehensive list of how to contact local governments, it would be much easier for you to research this on your own.)
(all drawings by mod aliza)